7 Sad Reasons That Make People Cheat on Their Loved Ones. And Ways to Happily Avoid Them
It’s peculiar that people who use the internet more frequently also have more affairs. Being cheated on by your partner is a sad thing, but before blaming others and instead of being suspicious all the time, it is always better to get deeper into the real reasons for cheating and try to avoid them.
Who cheats in a relationship?
There are plenty of studies about this topic, but the main thing to note is that women are just as likely to cheat as men are.
Alicia Walker spoke to more than 50 women who were between the ages of 24 and 54 and revealed in her book The Secret Lives of Cheating Wives that women in their early 40s were most likely to cheat. But nobody wants to leave their marriage! They’re just looking for a new experience.
Women are becoming equal to men but their reasons for cheating may be different. Most often, men are driven by desire while women are seeking out an emotional connection.
Reasons why people cheat in a relationship and how to avoid them:
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1. Lack of passion in a relationship
This was the most common reason noted by individuals in one of the studies. You can have emotional harmony with your partner but if there’s always been a lack of passion, it may end with cheating.
How to avoid it:
2. Lack of emotional satisfaction
This can be very dangerous because if you don’t feel emotional intimacy, you may get depressed and start searching for another source of happiness. Less connection leads to more chances for cheating.
How to avoid it:
3. Your partner just fell out of love with you or fell in love with someone else.
Yes, this is very painful! But love is a tricky thing. You might be drinking coffee in a coffee shop and boom! You see a person and you feel like your heart stops. We can’t explain this, but sometimes chemistry, destiny, or karma are the triggers. So it’s very possible that a person could just fall out of love too.
How to avoid it:
4. Anger is a trigger for cheating.
You suspect or know your partner hurt you or betrayed you. Let’s get even! You want revenge!
How to avoid it:
1. Focus on managing yourself, but not your partner. You can’t be responsible for the actions of other people, but you can be responsible for your actions and emotions. Being calm is much more effective. Surround yourself with friends who can keep your mood up.
2. Share your feelings instead of placing blame on someone else.
3. Analyze the situation and try to find the best solution instead of slamming doors. Your partner will most likely regret their actions when they see you as a reasonable and calm person.
5. A curiosity for new experiences
The internet. Tinder. The gym. You can face temptation anywhere and sometimes might feel curious about whether you could achieve a new goal and win someone’s heart. It’s like a contest where, instead of playing tennis, you flirt with someone to see if you’ve still “got it.” You may really love your partner, but might be craving a challenge.
How to avoid it:
6. An inability to commit
For some, a relationship doesn’t mean having just one partner. Some people are just more open-minded.
How to avoid it:
If you prefer a traditional relationship, discuss it with your partner and don’t be scared to be yourself. It’s better to avoid an unhealthy relationship in the beginning, than to have a broken heart and a bad experience later.
7. The relationship needs spicing up
Add some fire in your relationship! Risk adds more drama. And in a quest for drama, or out of boredom, you might start searching for something new, that you can’t get at home.
Don’t be in a rush to make any decisions before talking honestly with your partner and sharing your wants, needs, and the things you’re fantasizing about. All relationships have their ups and downs. Spicing up the relationship can involve a variety of activities that you can do with your partner.
Do you have your own ideas for how to keep your relationship loyal and healthy? Please share your ideas with us!
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